How To Be Yourself

Following is a guest post by one of my close friends and favorite bloggers, The Daily Blonde. If you’re wondering what you can possibly learn about social media from the woman who wrote “56 Reasons To Have Sex?” or “Dear Saliva Guy… And Other Not So Fond Memories“, read on:

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the daily blonde cheryl How To Be YourselfWhen I started my blog a little over a year ago, I wondered who would read my pointless ramblings? A week after I started The Daily Blonde, people were actually reading my often tilted view of every day life. Moreover, they commiserated about my struggles, shared in my joys and applauded my opinions.

I soon became addicted to reading blogs and quickly realized which ones made me come back often. People who wrote from their heart and didn’t attempt to be someone other than their truest self became part of my growing list of daily reading. Perhaps that is why an increasing number of people read my blog. I am always myself.

Whether you have a business or a personal blog, the key to capturing the attention of readers is to infuse your true personality into your writing.

  • Help readers identify with you by adding personal experiences to your blog. I compare this to being in school and having one teacher who taught from the book and a second teacher who told a personal story about the subject he was teaching. The second teacher always received my complete attention.
  • Write as if you’re speaking. If you don’t use the Queen’s English when you talk, don’t use it when you write. Bottom line, spell correctly but be yourself.
  • Don’t second guess yourself. If you think, “Maybe I should not post this…no one will care” chances are you’re wrong. Go outside of your comfort zone.
  • Be passionate about everything you write. Don’t be afraid to be a little controversial. We’re only here for a short time. Why hold back because you’re afraid of a negative comment? You can spin that negativity into a positive almost every time.

I tend to say it like it is. That’s my personality and I’ll be dammed if I’m going to edit it.

People want real.

Especially in these tough times, there’s a greater chance someone will want to connect with you on a personal or business level if they know you’re not a robot. Personally, I’d make a terrible robot because I just can’t be tamed by a remote control. I truly appreciate anyone who blogs with a healthy dose of reality. As my son says, “That’s how I roll.”

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  • You've got the right idea, girl.
    .-= Maura´s last blog ..Will it float? =-.
  • @Gordon - TheDailyBlonde is not that good at kissing ass.
  • The more I read, the more people I find preaching the same message, and I couldn't agree more.

    I came across a great quote a while back that sums this up: "The enemies you make by taking a stand will usually have more respect for you than the friends you make by sitting on the fence".

    And of course, as Aesop wrote, if you try to please everyone you just end up kissing your ass goodbye.

    <abbr>Gordon Mullan’s last blog post..The formula for failure</abbr>
  • @Heidi - You're welcome. Cheryl rocks!
  • Great advice. I agree about sharing something personal--readers can identify better with you. Thanks,
    Heidi
  • Great message here! A good reminder to be real and not be afraid to show who I am in my blog..even if it is a business related blog. I find that as a coach, it is important for people to see who I am, but I also find myself getting caught up in the "this is about business" mentality. How much to make it about who I am and how much to make it about what I can do for you. I feel like I am just begining to tap into my blogging potential.
    Rock on!
    Leah
  • @Kate - Cool. Ping me on Twitter if you need anything!
  • Thx! I'll check it out now.
    -Kate
  • @Kate - Well don't be afraid to be who you are - that's the long tail. You might want to visit the "Resource Superlist" page I created for folks.
  • I'm very new. Only a few weeks old in internet marketing. As far as my actual age is concerned, you get brownie points on that one! =)
  • @Kate - Just curious. How new are you? You seem to be at least in your mid 20's.
  • Rachel (love, love, love your name btw), I couldn't agree with you more. All my loyal readers tell me that the reason they keep coming back is because I'm so damn honest with them. And they've made me a better person/blogger for it.

    It may have taken a long while to get to where I am now (in terms of readership) but the kind of relationship I have with these readers is not something I would trade for all the popularity in blogdom.

    Kudos ;)
  • It's so simple and obvious, yet I'm new and findig my way. Thanks for this blog post. It is exactly what I needed!
  • @Snow - Thanks for the comment. The other thing I'll say about Cheryl is her "being real" actually means that she's connecting on a deeper level with common human experiences. In other words, she resonates with people. That's how gets lots of readers, tons of followers on Twitter and high subscriber counts.
  • I agree 100% with you, Cheryl.

    I've only been blogging for about six months now and have struggled with trying to follow rules that other successful bloggers preach and that work for them.

    I don't have a niche and I get bored when I start another blog with a central theme. Ultimately, it dies and I revert back to my first blog. I basically cover whatever is on my mind, I sometimes use profanity, my posts are not always happy - sometimes they are angry, depending on my mood.

    I don't have the reader numbers that you do, but perhaps some day that will come. I'm not concerned about that so much, because I'm never going to get rich or famous by blogging, but it does keep me grounded. And that is worth alot to me.

    Blogging is not about walking down someone else's path -- it's about blazing your own trail, your own way.

    Thanks for a great post and the opportunity to share.
  • @Cheryl - With hundreds of thousands of new blogs being created each day, REAL is getting a bit harder to find. Glad I found you!
  • John, when you used the words "emotional shit storm" in one of your previous posts, you became my personal A List Blogger.

    I think in these times more than ever, we all have to maintain a higher level of "real" in our postings. The big web world can be a little daunting so people become more three dimensional when they reveal their true self, even in business.

    Thanks, John. You are one rockin' guy that I am fortunate to know!
    Cheryl
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