Although my Facebook Page has a good number of fans, I have over 2300 friends on my personal Profile that share my love for birdwatching.
These friends have naturally become important to my business. For example, if my Facebook friends – or anyone of their friends – want to travel to Peru, my birdwatching tour business is foremost in their mind because of the personal relationship we’ve created on Facebook.
Facebook allows you to easily create and nurture lasting friendships. But maintaining the same quality of connection becomes difficult, as you get more friends.
Friend >> Fan >> Client
The Facebook profile is a complement to your Facebook page. A Facebook profile with thousands of selected friends within your field of interest (5000 is the top limit) simulates the function of a Facebook group as the content often is about the topic that is valuable for your friends with a common interest. There are some important differences compared to Facebook groups which all create a stronger relationship.
- You will be seen. Your post can be seen in the live feed of your friends. If they post on your wall, this will be noted on their walls. Even if it is inconspicuous it is still an affirmative message promoting YOU. This is the case also for Pages but NOT for Groups.
- Two way communication leads to more conversation. You can actively comment and share the stuff that your friends share. You create trust, which leads your friend to become a fan and perhaps a future client.
- Your profile is nurtured daily. Groups often lack activity.
- Be yourself. You can be broad and show different facets of your personality. It is easier to get to know people as a person/individual than as a brand.
- Friends lists. Although you can’t send a message to all your friends at once, but have to make batches of 20 people at the time, you have the option to target to different lists of friend when you post on your wall. Set your friend lists in the Account section.
How to nurture lasting friendships on Facebook
Here are a few tips how to nourish your friends. There is no point in having lots of friends if you don’t make an effort to be there for them.
- Check your Most Recent Live Feed often (in Home mode) and comment and like posts of your friends. Also make sure to click Edit Options at the bottom of that page to set your number of friends to 5000. If not, only feeds of 250 friends chosen by Facebook will show in Most Recent. You want to see all here.
- Make a list of the friends that comment and like your posts. They have seen you, and you want to keep on engaging and build a relationship with those that care about you. Add those friends to see more of in the Edit Options section.
- Use NutshellMail to get daily (or maybe several daily) summaries of your Facebook activity. Here you can select certain lists you want to monitor. With NutshellMail you can get a fast overview your Facebook. Facebook can be a time sink. With Nutshellmail you can turn it off, and come back to it at a certain hour.
- Always send a birthday wish to your friends and include his/her first name. This means at least once a year you are actively connecting with your friend. It does not have to be elaborate. It does not even have to be on time. The important thing is that it is sent. Nutshellmail also helps you remembering the birthdays.
- Remember the Social Media mantra. Listen! Engage! Share! Simple rules to live by.
Things to avoid on Facebook
- Don’t spam the wall of your new friends with self-promotion.
- Stay away from apps. Don’t send virtual flowers, wine, beer and kisses etc. If you absolutely have to post a picture on someone’s wall for a birthday or Christmas, let if be one of your own pictures.
- Some people on Facebook, may not want to become friends with you. Respect that!










